My husband of 18 years
(Mission Viejo Ca)
He told me that he has been thinking about leaving for the past 3 years. He said he is not happy anymore. he loves me but is not in love with me. He has stayed for the boys and because he would not be able to rent a place and pay the mortgage and does not want the boys to have to move out of our house. He swears there is no one else and he comes home every day. we have sex about twice a week. Help.
I am not sure what kind of help you are looking for. Marriage counseling may help.
You also have some choices in this situation. You are living with a man who says he is not in love with you, and would leave if it were not for the boys, and the rent, yet you continue to have sex with him a couple times a week. You do have a right to say what you will and will not put up with in a relationship.