My husband says he can't take the arguing about debt any more

by caroline
(uk)

My husband has serious debt and we have argued constantly for awhile on how to deal with it. I came back home several days ago to find a note left saying he had moved out he couldn't take the arguing anymore!


He was supposed to go bankrupt 2 days later but said in his note he was no longer doing it. He has shook my world. he won't take my calls or reply to my texts, he won't even make contact with his friend of thirty years! I would dearly love to stay in my marriage and work it out, but i have to make some decisions while he has gone. i have told his debt collectors he has left.

He hasn't taken everything and he hasn't asked me for a divorce. i believe he is having a crisis or breakdown. The no contact is killing me. I really can't put anything to perspective. I just want him back. I don't understand him anymore. Please help

Noel's response

I don't know how you can get him to contact you. You may just have to wait.

In the meantime, you might want to talk to a lawyer about getting your name off of his debts, so you are not also responsible for what he does financially.

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