My husband stopped everything

by Ruth Ann
(Scranton, PA USA)

My husband use to call my office at least 5X's a day, then would bring me lunch 3X,s a week, sex was great, 2X,s a week.....then 18 months ago everything stopped. When I asked questions he told me I'm crazy that nothing has changed ..... people who are close to me notice, co-workers noticed. When I kept confronting him to talk to me about what he was feeling .... he told me he has no feelings for me.
We live together, but that is all .... we share a house... I found drugs.....he is always buying toys like Quads and such. He is 40 and hangs out with 22-year-olds (Boys) We are second marriages ... we are married 13 years ...he helped raise 2 of my 5 children, we have 4 Grand kids. He has no BIO children of his own...but, we never looked at him as not being DAD or PAPA. Please Advise what to do!!!!!!

Noel's response

I am not sure what to advise. It sounds as though he is in a midlife transition. If he won't talk to you about what is going on, you will have to decide how long you want to carry on like this.

From what you say he is not having an affair, so you might just want to wait it out. As with all things, this too shall pass.