my method for handling his anger
I commented on another aspect of this topic.. but here's my take... we as women KNOW what this is, yet we are constantly asking WHY THE ANGER???... my question is DOES CHANGING THE GAME work??? like for instance, what if your lucky enough to have spotted it when it started, from the beginning... and you know what it is... is there a less hurtful way for us to ride it out??? .. like I've been going thru it for the past 5 months now, he's been confronted with it, and was like "really? is that what this is?" .. and he's been pretty receptive, and has calmed down with the negativity thus far... just can't seem to get him to let go of the girl friend he reconnected with 5 MONTHS AGO!! yeah, how convenient! .. so i'm taking the approach of making sure he's happy... and it seems to help a bit, however, my question still remains...HOW IN THE HELL TO MAKE IT LESS PAINFUL FOR ME!!!!! ...cuz you can't tell them how YOUR feeling, they just roll the eyes and get pissed! ... PLEASE help with this one.. suggesstions PLEEEEEEZE!!!!!!
The most helpful books I know of to answer your question are Jed Diamond's books The Irritable Male Syndrome
and Mr. Mean: Saving Your Relationship from the Irritable Male Syndrome
. He addresses this problem far more completely than I can.