My once loving husband has turned into a monster
My husband of 23 years left me 5 weeks ago after I found out he was having an online affair with a woman he met playing online games.. This woman lives over 400 miles away He said she knew he was happily married with 2 sons when they first started chatting 10 months ago, then foolishly (he said) he gave her his mobile phone and they chatted more frequently and he became fond of her. She is 54 (8 years older than him) is nothing to look at and looks old (his words) Four weeks before I discovered the affair he met her, she stayed in the hotel opposite our house and when myself and his children left for work and school they spent the day together. She then left her partner of 30 years, (she has no children) and he told me he no longer loved me and that he was fond of me and that if we ever split up he would give me the house. This is when I became suspicious because he has always been a loving husband and dad.
Since he has left I have checked his mobile phone calls and he is in touch with her constantly. I also checked his back record of calls and from Nov til he left me he rang and texted her over 30 times every single day, even in the presence of our children and even when he was with me. He is not contributing to the mortgage or giving money for our children. He arranges to see our sons once a week then lets them down, the last time he let them down he sent them a nasty text saying he had no money so he couldn't see them and that they never bothered to text him so he was going to a friends house, when really he had gone to spend time with her for a week, (his mother told me)He wont see me to talk to and ignores my texts. this week I am going to see a solicitor to arrange a separation. I just can't believe how cruel and deceptive he has been. This is not the man I lived with and I am finding it so hard to come to terms with. Will he regret this? I have no intention of taking him back.Noel's response
Given the circumstances, it sounds as though you are taking appropriate action. As to whether he will regret it... it seems logical that he would at some point, but who knows? Maybe he will, and maybe he won't.