Married for 29 years together 4 beforehand. 3 adult children living at home. 2014 husband had an affair. Affair over. Made contact three times to come home. Is leaving again after four months. Was very aggressive and seemed low at beginning of the four months. Tells me he loves me but not like a husband should love his wife. Also has said there is no spark. Into fourth year of this nonsense. Is it time to call it a day for me , he obviously has lost his feeling for me. By the way before the affair we had a lot of stress pressure for twelve years various reasons, family death, lost business earnings and shares.