No spark

by Mindy
(Nj)

Married for 29 years together 4 beforehand. 3 adult children living at home. 2014 husband had an affair. Affair over. Made contact three times to come home. Is leaving again after four months. Was very aggressive and seemed low at beginning of the four months. Tells me he loves me but not like a husband should love his wife. Also has said there is no spark. Into fourth year of this nonsense. Is it time to call it a day for me , he obviously has lost his feeling for me. By the way before the affair we had a lot of stress pressure for twelve years various reasons, family death, lost business earnings and shares.

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Jul 14, 2017

by: Noel

Hi Mindy,

It is not for me to say whether you should call it a day. It is a big decision, and you may find a few sessions with a counselor/therapist helpful in making it.
There does come a point where enough is enough, but only you know where that point is.
If you do decide to call it a day, be sure to protect yourself financially - cancel any joint bank accounts, credit cards, etc.
There are many sites on the net that can help you with that kind of information.

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