obession

by Rachel
(Miami, Florida)

My husband lost weight at 45 and now he is obsessed about himself and wants attention, anyone's attention. He wants to be looked at by others especially women. How do I deal with that? What about our family? our 20 year marriage?


Noel's response

Your husband sounds as though he is in a midlife crisis, where he realizes his life is half over, and his youth is slipping away. He may not have accomplished the things he thought he would have by this age, and he may be afraid he is no longer attractive to women. (As women age, they often face the same fear.)

Outside of it being annoying to you, try not to take it personally. It is not about you. It is about his insecurity, and in time it will pass.

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