Porn

by Blu
(T-town,Al.US)

I have been with him for 9 years. He has ALWAYS said how wrong porn was when subject had been brought up in these 9 years. I find out a month ago that he has it on his Instagram. This has blown me away. I have been married before and it never bothered me with my ex and he was like that from the beginning. But I think that is part of it,I feel he has LIED to me all these years. It was just his access that was limited,not that he thought it was wrong! I made a big deal about it at first and wanted him to delete them off but when I spoke with my doc(therapist-I have had to go on anti depressants due to this and other issues he is causing me) and he told me I was being controlling by asking that. I told him I was sorry and said I wouldn't look behind him again. I can't say I won't care because I DO and it does hurt me greatly. ... I want to believe that this is something we can get through. Without his love and support in other areas,I am afraid that this porn issue and his anger will end up making me hate him. I laid my cards on the table with him night before last and told him that he needs to keep in mind that he can only hurt me so many times before there's no turning back.... As far as trying to entice and make him more 'interested' in me, I have done all possible(i.e.sexy outfits,etc. even HE now says he can't keep up with me). I am told I am nice looking and modeled when younger,he SAYS I'm still beautiful. He is having work related stress that he definitely takes out on me(you know,those closest to you). I just don't know what else to do because the relationship is becoming abusive....

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Dec 19, 2016

by: Noel

I am not sure what to suggest. Porn can cause a problem with real sex, or it can sometimes give it a boost.
If he is becoming abusive that is a different matter. You must set some boundaries.

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