I am recovering from my husband's MLC. One day while sitting near my husband's laptop I decided to turn it on to see what he had been up to. I saw that he was checking out a skanky coworker on Facebook. When I confronted him about this, he initially said they were just friends but I didn't buy it. He admitted an attraction but kept saying it was just friends. Then I found his calendar where he was keeping track of his interactions with the skanky ho at work. He just turned 50 and skank is 28. The skank sleeps with lots of men at work, is married and has two young children. During an argument, I asked my husband to leave. He pleaded to stay and work it out and admitted to buying the skank a piece of jewelry that he said was inexpensive ($200). The skank was supposed to transfer elsewhere so he bought her this gift as a goodbye but conveniently gave it to her before Christmas. I had to buy my own Christmas present and give it to myself and say it was from him. This was the way he was with gifts for most of our marriage. He told me he felt guilty about the jewelry and it had bothered him for quite some time. I ended up finding out he was staling her on Facebook daily. It was disturbing. He was really dishonest about a lot of things. He said he felt we had become distant which was news to me. He said he had this crush on her for almost two years.
A lot of tears have been shed by both of us. We came to an agreement that he needed to leave jobs or transfer. That is in the process. A few weeks ago out of nowhere he came into the house and began crying. He said he realized all of the awful things he did to me and how much it hurt him knowing he hurt me. I suspected for months it was MLC but when he cried, he talked about a lot of things including how much he hates his job and how he is worried about his own mortality as well as mine and of his elderly mother's.
Prior to this skank drama, things were good between us. He was never the type to stray. This is what makes this all so painful. He insists he is over the immature, irresponsible stuff and that he has worked on and continues to work on this transition.
How do I know if he is sincere? I would like to believe that he is but I have to say I am terrified of going through this again.