Should I leave him?

by Gloria
(New Jersey)

In a week my soon to be 60 years old boyfriend, I am 52, are going on a cruise with our 90 year old and 87 year old mothers. This is my birthday gift to all three, boyfriends birthday is 11/23 and the moms are both in Dec. The only problem is that I feel unloved by my boyfriend although he tells me he loves me. We rarely have sex, I rarely go to his home, but we do still do things together but we usually part afterwards. I know he is still mourning his sisters death in April but I feel alone. I am thinking about leaving him by December because I do not think that things will get better. Everyone else has ownership over him except me. What do you think? We have been together a little over two years.

Noel's response

You have a better read of the situation than I do. If everyone else truly does have more ownership of him than you, chances are that will not improve with time unless the two of you work things out.

Have you talked to him about how you feel? Perhaps his idea of a satisfying relationship is different than yours. If so, you might want to find someone that meets your needs more fully.