Trying to figure out what is wrong with my husband
My husband and I have been married for 20 years next month... We've always had a good relationship lots of love and he was the best dad and husband you could ask for! I've not always been the best wife, that woman thing I guess.
Always accused him of cheating even tho I don't think he really ever did. Not sure when he would have other than work he was with me or the kids. He deployed in Jan. this year to Iraq and we talked on the phone almost everyday or video chatted up until mid March.
He got sick and I noticed he started pulling away from me we didn't talk a lot anymore I just chalked it up to me working and he recovering from his sickness. Well in May he told me he doesn't love me and that he really never has the way a husband should love a wife. Well you could have fooled me cause I sure always felt as if he did. I was floored. So were our children.. 22, 19 and 14 years old.
He and I still talked every day, but a few weeks later I found out that he was talking to some lady on the net that he thinks he loves. He barely talks to our kids. yes they're hurt but he is not the same person. it's like Night and DAy! He's not caring anymore. He says we need to be happy for him.
Sorry but you just ruined our lives and you want us to be happy. His memory is horrible he will email me the same question 5 times and I tell him every time I've already answered it..
I need help trying to figure out what is wrong with him can you please help me.. I'm trying to save my marriage! I love this man and I know that he is my soul mate.
My kids hate him/ they don't they're just really hurt, but he is not the same person.
My 19 year old daughter told him that physically he may be her dad but mentally she doesn't know who he is.. He told his 14 year old son that when he got mature he could talk to him again. And blocked his email. I mean this man was the best father you could know. We need to know what happened to him and how to help him... PleaseNoel's response
I don't know what happened to your husband. You don't mention what kind of sickness he suffered from. Was it a wound? A germ? A psychological problem such as traumatic stress?
Perhaps if you see a counselor, or talk to his doctor, they could help.