walked out after being married for 22 years

I'm taking all the blame because of my health I'm unable to sleep on a bed, for the past 12 years I sleep on a recliner. He told our adult children that he found his true love, sad for he told me that same thing 22 years ago. He told me he's very sorry, but what am I to do I'm a disabled women, now my 18 yr. old says she'll take care of me. Why is it my first husband done the same thing we were married for 12 years. Could it be because they both were adopted? Plus he won an election coming out with the most ever votes, plus made world news with a famous New York News paper, made him change.


Noel's response

I don't know why both men left you, as I know nothing about either you or them.

Were I you, I might ask myself what it is that draws me to men who were adopted? Were you trying in some way to 'rescue' them?

I notice you also refer to yourself as a 'disabled woman', although I don't know what your disability is, other than that you have to sleep in a recliner. I suggest you change your language so that if you are going to refer to your disability at all, you call yourself a woman with a disability. It is a small change in language, but can bring a big change in how you see yourself.
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Nov 27, 2013
Mlc
by: Anonymous

My husband of 21 years and five children . Went out for a drink and never came back called me the next day on Mother's Day to tell my he no longer loved me and he'd been seeing another woman , she left him eight weeks later , but he still doesn't want me , he's gone from being a husband and father , to becoming a teenage rebel has had a tattoo , is now taking drugs and drinking , excessively every night, and he blames me , saying I never understood him and I controlled him , I love him so much it's breaking my heart , we been separated almost a year now . And I still can't come to terms with it , he is forty seven soon , and we also have a disabled six year old , With church I have to cope will all my self he asks our nineteen year old son to get drugs for him , I'm so devastated , he was my life , I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel he's been with countless women , I don't know who he is any more.

Dec 14, 2011
HURT
by: Anonymous

I feel your pain. My husband of 38 years walked out and went home to his Mommy.Shes supporting him. He says he'll never work again. I too am disabled and forced to live on 676.00 a month. Honestly thinking not being alive would be better......Sorry.....Cindy

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