wanting more

The Question


I am a 34-year-old married to the most beautiful loving person in the world. She is the best mother and wife. I am pushing her away because I am never happy with anything and all I can think of is making love to her, and if i don't get my way I get upset. I was never like this, is this some kind of midlife crisis I am going through??

Noel's response

It has some of the earmarks of a midlife crisis, but it might also have something to do with a subconscious message you have about women 'owing you sex' because of 'what you do for them'. I suggest some counseling/psychotherapy to help you sort out your feelings.

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Jun 13, 2011
same problem.
by: Anonymous

i am facing the same exact problem.I want to have more intimacy with my wife but she keeps giving excuses to decline my needs which upset me profoundly.

She wants me to understand her condition as female hormonal changes aren't the same like male. Hence, i can only wait every once in month to have sex with her after her menstrual cycle. This has begun to make me feel to shun slowly from her not intentionally. The sub-conscious feeling is overwhelming.What should i do?

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