what is it about 50yrs?
I've been reading all these posts and am now really worried. My husband is 42 and am 32.is it wise to start having a future plan that does not include my husband when he turns 50? Should i start preparing emotionally, financially and mentally for that MLC?
It sounds so selfish what these men do to their wives and children after many yrs invested? is it even worth it to wait for when he starts having the craziness? I feel like bailing out and not have to invest too much in this marriage. i feel so sad for the women who have gone thru all that bad behavour called MLC. How come the women never leave their husbands of so many yrs during their menopause? Noel's response
What you are seeing here is a skewed sample. All the submissions are from women (mostly) and men who are struggling in midlife. I am not sure what percentage of men go through this level of difficulty at midlife, but my guess is somewhere between 10-20 percent. I would not make future plans that do not include him based on the statistics here.
Women do leave their husbands at midlife, especially during menopause.
According to a groundbreaking new survey, commissioned by "AARP The Magazine", of 1,147 men and women aged 40 to 79 who experienced a divorce in their 40s, 50s, or 60s, - 66 percent of women reported that they asked for the divorce, compared with 41 percent of men.
And men more often than women were caught off-guard by their divorce (the news blind-sided 26 percent of men, compared with 14 percent of women).
The good news is that overall, respondents emerged from the ordeal of later-life divorce far happier and emotionally healthier than most would have dared to hope at the outset.
Your comment regarding bailing out and not investing too much in your marriage makes it sound as though you are not very committed at the moment. If that is so, your lack of commitment could perhaps make it more likely you will end up divorced, as all marriages (including 'good' ones) go through times of struggle (not necessarily caused by MLC), and if both parties are not committed, it makes it difficult for the marriage to survive.