What Older Women Want
I am 60 and a widow. My husband (age 70) was sick for 15 years and always felt bad that he could no longer perform in bed & upset that he couldn't do more around our home. I was so tired holding down my job and doing everything around the house, I told him truthfully that sex was not thought of very often. By now, my libido has slowed down too. Your site really helped me understand what the males are going through in their midlife. It must be noted that I have experienced much of the same emotions, maladies & confusion that the men have experienced. So you see - women & men are not very different when aging. Same fears, loss of health etc., which naturally leads to depression & of course, who wants sex when you feel lousy. My advice is to see a doctor. Maybe you just need antidepressant meds. Get off your butt. Quit feeling ashamed or sorry for yourself. Have fun, even though you can no longer perform in bed or no longer want to. You are a viable human being with much of life's experiences. We older women, want you wonderful creatures even though you can not have sex or have lost interest in sex.
I was discussing your site with widowed women friends over 65. They made comments about what they wanted in a man ....maybe this will help the guys understand there is hope for them if they have low or no libidos.
What women want:
More friendship/companionship w/o sex. Loneliness effects both sexes. NO one needs to know that you are not interested in sex but keeping a lady around will keep them guessing.
They want a man to help around the house w/o sex. Doesn't a man want to feel needed? Give your helping hand to others. You will feel better about yourself.
Cuddling & being close to a man was a real want but w/o sex. If you take your time with a woman, get to know her, she will trust you and feel completely safe when with you. Then she will be more receptive to having sex, if you so desire. And if you can not complete a sex act, an older woman will understand,especially if you discussed it before time. Sure it is the last thing a man wants to discuss but to live life to the fullest, one must bite the bullet. She will admire your truthfulness.