WHAT TO DO

by Margaret
(UNITED KINGDOM)

MY HUSBAND LEFT ME AFTER NEARLY 30 TOGETHER, MARRIED FOR 14 ,HES A GOOD LISTENER AND SHE NEW IT, SHES LOTS OF ISSUES GOING ON HEAVY DRINKER & FREQUENT DRUG USER, 3 CHILDREN (IN CARE) VERY HIGH SPIRITED QUITE VIOLENT, ATTEMPTED SUICIDE LOTS OF TIMES, LAST TIME WEN SHE SEE ME MY HUSBAND AND GRANDCHILDREN ALL TOGETHER AT LOCAL CELEBRATION, NOT LONG AFTER THAT HE LEFT. THEY GOT PLACE TOGETHER, IT WENT WRONG SHE DRANK &SPENT ALL HIS MONEY WAS CONSTANTLY AWAY PARTYING, HE PACKED HER BAGS SHE LEFT, HE WAS IN BITS I THOUGHT BECAUSE WHAT HE'D DONE TO ME,
I LET HIM STAY OVER A COUPLE OF TIMES WE SPOKE ABOUT GETTING BACK TOGETHER, BUT NOW I KNOW HE WAS ONLY PINING FOR HER, I ASKED HIM DO YOU STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR HER,,, HE DIDN'T ANSWER,, IM SO ANGRY AND BITTER, WE ROWED AND I ASKED HIM "DO YOU STILL LOVE HER ? HIS ANSWER WAS " I LOVE YOU TOO,,,,

Noel's response

My only suggestion is that you move on with your life without him. He sounds lost and confused, and I doubt there is anything you can do to change that. A man who is so enmeshed with an addictive, emotionally chaotic woman is not likely to be a good partner for anyone.