When all this will be end

by Maria
(Dubai ,UAE)

Question
My husband and I have been married for 3 years, and we have been happy.

I am 29 and my husband is 54 years old. But last year he told me he wants my sister, not for sex, but just wants to feel her.

And this year the problem is starting again. He started talking with a girl on the phone and texting her, but not at home. They will talk while he is out side the house. But I caught him texting her while we together. He is trying to be a good a husband, and tells me the truth. We don't want to lose our marriage.

I do love him and care about him, and of course that hurts my feelings. So what do I have to do now?

Please help !!

Noel's answer

It sounds as though your husband is going through a lot of confusion, and instead of looking inside himself, he thinks the answer to his anxiety and insecurity is outside himself, especially with other women.

As you are 25 years younger than him, my guess is that he left a marriage, looking for the 'perfect mate', before he married you. Of course the perfect mate he is looking for doesn't exist.

You need to take a stand with your husband. Either he quits fooling around with other women, or you leave.