when the husband does strange things.

by emma
(surrey)

QUESTION:
I am married for the last 12 years, and my husband, I think, is having a midlife crises. He does things that make me feel that he has another women in his life. He has strange numbers in his mobail, wants some private time for him self, loss of intrest in sex, hiding all his bank and phone statments from me.

I feel he has no interest in me, always blames me, I am trying to keep him happy but I don't feel any response. Advise me please what to do.

NOEL'S ANSWER:

Perhaps the first thing to do is find out (hire a private detective?) whether your husband is having an affair.

If he is, confront him with it, and tell hime what you want, such as demanding he end the affair, or you will end the marriage.

You might also speak to a lawyer to take preventive action to protect yourself financially in case he is having and affair and plans to leave you.

You might also get some counselling to help your figure out what you want in your life (e.g. what you are looking for in a relationship) so that you can begin getting what your want, rather than waiting to see what he does.

It is a very difficult situation, but positive action on your behalf is the best way to move forward in your life, and be prepared for whatever comes in your relationship with him.

Noel