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When to Give up?

by Hollie

After years of other women being in our marriage in some form, how do you know when enough is enough? I've never believed in divorce, but I can't allow my children to see me be a doormat, either. I'm really torn right now, as to what is the "right" thing to do. He's always better for awhile, but he's more different now than he's ever been. I thought we had the same values when we married, but not now. I've seen other couples divorce right after an affair and I always thought they didn't give it a chance to work. Maybe they have the right idea. Walk out and don't deal with how much his actions hurt. The hurt seems to get bigger the more I try to get past it. How do you know when to let go?

Noel's response

It sounds as though it is far past the time for you to let go. I can pretty much assure you that he is not going to change.

Deciding to leave a marriage is very difficult. When my second wife and I split up (I had been widowed before I met her), I felt very sad, as I had sworn and oath before God, and did not feel right about breaking it. However, the marriage was so stressful for both of us that is was better to split. I really couldn't imagine a God who would not forgive two people for making a mistake in the first place, and living in continual emotional pain.

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