why am i very emotional. and get upset easly

by glenn fowler
(usk wa usa)

for the past few months I have been getting upset about the littlest thing and cant seem to get thing right and feal like the whole world is coming down on me and my mind wont get off the past and it upsets me on every turn and thin i get very emotional. with all the stuff my body is goin through like muscle cramps some times i crow into a ball but the dr have not found out why the cramps arew from and i am a vet from the 70s and so thy say i have ptsd.


Noel's response

Irritability is very common in men going through a midlife transition. Jed Diamond's book "the Irritable Male Syndrome"
May be helpful to you in understanding this more fully.
I am not sure about why you are getting cramps, but it it is from PTSD, a new therapeutic approach called 'Self Regulation Therapy' (SRT) is very effective for trauma. You can find details and perhaps a therapist near you at www.cftre.com
Good luck!

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Feb 17, 2013
Why am I very emotional...
by: NWF

Hello Glenn, Your emotional side is coming out! It is your opposite inner being called anima or animus, depending on your sex. Please go to the website: midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com and read under/click under the left column of MLC information. Go down thru the headings listed there until you find an article on The Contra-sexual Complex...I think that is what it is called. It will explain what you are feeling right now.

I hope this does not turn into a crisis for you. But, you can educate yourself on what MLC really is and be cautious of the event thru the knowledge you will find there. You may want to share that website with friends who are hurting right now due to their woman/man going thru this and abandoning their families and everything they used to hold dear to them. Warning, this is a very touchy subject to the one in crisis. They will deny it is happening to them...I hope you do not deny what is happening to you before it is too late. My husband of 18 years now has been going thru this for 5 or 6 years and he left us 3 years ago for another woman (OW). Hold on tight, this is not going to be a good ride unless you don't change your life for the voice in your head. Be strong...stay the course...it will pass though it may take years, and talk to your spouse about what is happening to you. Do not leave them in the dark on this one. HOLD ON! It will be worth it later in life. Counseling may help if the confusion gets too overpowering. Find a conselor that understands MLC...to a T! The grass is NOT greener on the other side of the fence, it may seem so at first but later you will be paying thru your guilt and shame. It is not worth that.

Hugs for you, NWF

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