Will my husband come back

The Question

My husband, I am sure, is having a midlife crisis. He showed all the signs before he left. We've been married for 12 years and have an 11 year old son. He left about 3 weeks ago to think things out.

How long do I need to wait for him to make up his mind whether he's coming back? How should I be handling this so I can survive?

Noel's response

I am not sure how long you need to wait. You can discuss that with him... ask him how long he thinks he needs, and decide whether you want to wait that long.

Also, think about what you want your relationship to be like even if he decides to return. It will be different than before he left, and you need to know what you want.

Outside of that, I can only suggest that you carry on with your life the way you want it to be. Chances are you haven't given a lot of thought to what you want in life, so this might be a time to figure that out, and start working toward it. If you can't do it on your own, go to my 'life mission' page, and/or get help from a therapist or coach.