72 YO wants sex with wife
by Larry Howell
I was exiled to the spare bed room 15 years ago. I was unable to please my wife and she said things like "She felt like a hole" I used to fulfill my lust desires or "don't start something you cant finish". That and other statements turned me off especially when I was sent to the spare room. Farther back, she was molested as a pre-teen and, we married at 16/17 so when the children came along we shifted to raising them thus no conflicts were addressed. Now being exiled I had resorted to very unsatisfying self gratification. Lately the Dr. started me on testosterone treatments which have probably resulted in my resurgence in sexual interests. I was below 100 from the tests. When I approach her now she expresses no interest even to the point of total repulsion at the idea. I agree I am at fault for letting this continue for so long (really 20-25 years) without meaningful intervention. I have stated that I will never initiate sex again and that she will be the initiator. She is perfectly willing to never have sex or intimacy with me even though we do love each other. She says sex was for procreation only, but I know we both had meaningful contact before. I really don't understand how I might get a more reasonable response from her especially now that I am much more understanding and knowledgeable. I feel I have been patient but wish to rekindle our relationship in our latter years. Is it too late? What could/would anyone do.
I am not qualified to answer your question. Perhaps seeing a marriage or sex counselor (even on your own) would be helpful.
Someone on this list may have a helpful suggestion as well.