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Midlife Wisdom for Men Newsletter Issue #019, October 1, 2004
October 01, 2004
Midlife Wisdom for Men - Helping Men Navigate Midlife Transitions.


Written by Noel McNaughton
(c) copyright 2004


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October 1, 2004 Issue #019

=========== TABLE OF CONTENTS ==========

· What Would You Want To Hear On A Radio Show About Midlife Men?

· Protect Your Brain From Sleep Deprivation

· A Quick Relaxation Exercise


Welcome to this issue of Midlife Wisdom for Men.

Fall has arrived (or spring for you in Australia). Here in Edmonton, Alberta it is a lovely sunny, if breezy, day. Temperature about 14 degrees C (57 degrees F). Another month or less and the snow will be here.

I took my 11-year-old grandson Emmett canoeing last Sunday on a 20-mile stretch of river. It was a good time. We didn't talk a lot, but it was good being together. Perhaps you have a young person (child, niece/nephew, grand child) that would like a bit more of your company? I think it is always worth the effort. One of the natural roles from middle age onward is being an elder and mentor for younger folks. They need to just be with us. We don't need to 'teach' them anything. They learn from who we are, not what we say anyway.

There are 1203 words in the articles in this newsletter, which should take about 6.5 minutes to read. Hope you enjoy it. ==============================================

To the Editor

While I agree with your question about what is your mythology or life purpose - I have come to believe that it must be secondary to - "We are here to love' (I can thank my wife for that understanding) - if we do that first then our life's work becomes a labour of love - and you know what has been said about that over the centuries.


What Would You Want To Hear On A Radio Show About Midlife Men?

I am an occasional guest on a local Canadian Broadcasting Corporation radio call-in show. It started as a 'one-time thing' last January, when the host thought it would be interesting to have a show about midlife men.

We got a large response, including many calls and emails from women wondering what was happening to their men, so we did a couple more shows in September. In the one we did last week the topic was depression in men, and we had MANY calls. Seems once men heard what the symptoms were, they and their wives realized they might be depressed.

So here is the question for you... if you were going to listen to a radio program on midlife men, what topics would you want covered?

I would REALLY appreciate your response to this, as Don (the host) would like to do a midlife men show about once a month.

Please email your topic ideas to me at

Thanks a lot.


Ten Things You'll never hear a man say (according to women)...
10. Here honey, you use the remote.
9. You know, I'd like to see her again, but her breasts are just too big.
8. Ooh, Antonio Banderas AND Brad Pitt? That's one movie I gotta see!
7. While I'm up, can I get you anything?
6. Honey since we don't have anything else planned, will you go to the wallpaper store with me?
5. Sex isn't that important; sometimes, I just want to be held.
4. Why don't you go to the mall with me and help me pick out a pair of shoes?
3. Aww, forget Monday night football, Let's watch Melrose Place.
2. Hey let me hold your purse while you try that on.
1. We never talk anymore


Protect Your Brain From Sleep Deprivation

As I get older, I have a harder time getting a good night's sleep. From other men I have talked to, I know I am not alone. Apparently our bodies don't repair themselves as completely as time goes on, so don't need as much sleep (the time when the repairing takes place). Still, sleep seems to be important.

Here is an article from Dr. Daniel Amen's website

"Sleep deprivation from a number of causes also hurts the brain. People who get less than seven hours of sleep a night have lower activity in the temporal lobes of the brain, the part of the brain involved in learning and memory. Shift workers, those suffering from jet lag, teens who have their sleep schedules off-kilter from school schedules, those suffering from sleep apnoea are all at risk for poorer brain function. Those who are sleep deprived score poorer on memory and math tests, have lower grades in school and are at much greater risks for driving accidents.

"According to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration, drowsiness and fatigue cause more than 100,000 traffic accidents each year, and young drivers are at the wheel in more than half the crashes. Sleep deprivation is also associated with depression and attention deficit disorders. Recently, sleep apnoea (snoring loudly, breath holding when sleeping, and tiredness during the day) has been linked to Alzheimer's disease.

"Sleep is involved in rejuvenating the brain. Without it, people can literally become psychotic. When I was the chief of mental health at Fort Irwin we saw a number of soldiers who started to hear voices and become paranoid after being up three days in a row. Fort Irwin is home to the National Training Center that teaches soldiers desert warfare. Troops spent days at a time in war games without much sleep. Mental health casualties were always high during those periods of time.

"Work toward sleeping at least 7-8 hours per night. Practice good sleep habits, such as avoiding much caffeine or nicotine, stay away from alcohol as a sleep aide, as it will wear off and cause you to wake up in the middle of the night, avoid exercise before bed and learn relaxation techniques to calm your mind."


Not he who has little, but he who wishes for more, is poor. Seneca


A Quick Relaxation Exercise

Dr. Amen says we should learn to relax. Ok... how?

Well, here's an exercise that Adair Wilson Heitmann, director of the Center for Creativity and Wellness in Fairfield, Connecticut recommends. I got this from a website or newsletter somewhere, and I usually keep track of my sources, but seem to have lost this one. My thanks to whoever wrote it:

"To quickly release tension, Heitmann advises a technique derived from the Japanese healing art called jin shin jyustsu. While it's best to do this in a restful place where you can shut your eyes, it's not necessary. Heitmann says you can do it any time you're feeling out of balance. It's especially good for nervous airplane travelers.

"Here's what you do: Wrap your entire right hand around your left thumb, as if your hand were a tortilla wrapping the thumb. Hold that for one to five minutes, and then alternate left hand on right thumb. Go through each of your fingers this way, always alternating hands. The energy flow through each of the fingers has a particular association -- the thumb with worry... the index finger with fear... the middle finger with anger... the ring finger with grief... and the pinky with pretense or façade.

"Although this method is excellent for releasing tension in general, if you are experiencing one of these aspects in particular, you can hold the corresponding digits of each hand, alternating as described, to find relief."


Just For You: A Free Do-It-Yourself Retirement Planning Report

If you are a new subscriber to this newsletter, you will recall I promised you a link to a secret page on the Midlife Men's site where you can download a free 27-page report on 'DIY Retirement planning' by George Slater.

Welcome to the newsletter, and for your free report, go to: DIY Retirement E-Report , click on the link, and follow the instructions.



Learn to be a Teleclass Facilitator

If you are a facilitator/speaker/professional who gives lectures or workshops, you can do it from home and make money. Teleclasses (also known as teleseminars) using telephone bridge lines, are becoming increasingly popular, and and a very inexpensive way to deliver high-quality training. I took training in teleclass leadership from Teleclass International which I highly recommend.



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Well friend, that's it for now. Again, if you enjoyed this and/or found it useful, and know of anyone else who might like it, please pass it forward. And if you have questions or recommendations, I would love to hear from you.

All the best, Noel

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