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Midlife Wisdom for Men Newsletter Issue #020, October 14, 2004
October 14, 2004
Midlife Wisdom for Men - Helping Men Navigate Midlife Transitions.


Written by Noel McNaughton
(c) copyright 2004


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Issue #020, October 14, 2004

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Are You Heading for Tarshish, When You Are Supposed To Be Going To Nineveh?

Get A Truly Great Bargain On Jed Diamond's New Book: The Irritable Male Syndrome

Do You Want To Take the Business Ethics Pledge?


Welcome to this issue of Midlife Wisdom for Men.

Well, Canadian Thanksgiving is just over, and when I went to the gym yesterday, I weighed three pounds more than I did last Friday. That's what you get for sitting down to two scrumptuous family dinners. By Friday I should be back to my former weight, assuming I don't get into too many leftovers!

Life Mission has always been big for me. It took forty years to figure it out, and when I acted on it, my life became more exciting, as well as a little bit terrifying (I had to FOLLOW my mission, and that meant some risks... in my case, quitting my job and going back to university, then starting a new business). Jonah had that inner call too. And I bet you do too.

Jed Diamond has a new book, and he is trying to get it to the top of the list at Amazon. To do that he is offering a you a bargain.

There are 1388 words in the articles in this newsletter, which should take about 7 minutes to read. Hope you enjoy it.


Are You Heading for Tarshish, When You Are Supposed To Be Going To Nineveh?

Jonah was going about his life, when God (i.e. his Soul, his inner voice) spoke to him and said: "Arise, go to Nineveh, that great city, and preach against it; for their wickedness has come up before me." My guess is that Jonah was middle aged when this happened.

Well, Jonah didn't want to go preach against the folks at Nineveh, so decided to run away to Tarshish and hide from God. (i.e. he chose not to follow his inner urgings, as they seemed difficult, and risky. He might be laughed at or spurned.)

I can relate to Jonah's choice here. In my early forties, I got a clear sense of life mission (the first time I'd had it), and the mission was to help people take better care of the earth. I have worked in agriculture most of my life, and so I decided I would look for a better way to farm, and encourage people to do that. I found a better way, which is called Holistic Management (, and was excited about teaching it.

I was also a little reluctant to talk about this better way to approach decisions in agriculture, because I had to also talk about how what we are doing now doesn't work all that well. I had no problem with that idea, but a number of my classmates were in senior positions in the department of agriculture, or professors in the faculty of agriculture, and I was afraid they would think I was flaky, or had become a back to the lander or something. In other words, I was afraid I would be laughed at or taken lightly by my peers.

I did it anyway, and found much support among my peers once they saw the positive effect my training program had on the farm and ranch families I taught.

Ok, back to Jonah...

Going to Nineveh was his true calling. He headed the wrong direction, trying to escape his Soul's task, and ran into trouble. A big storm came on the ship, endangering everyone. They figured out what was causing the problem, and Jonah told them to throw him overboard so everyone wouldn't drown. They did. God sent a big fish that swallowed Jonah, and he stayed there for three days and three nights.

Jonah repented, and said he would follow the Lord's command, and the fish spit him up on the shore.

He went to Nineveh and preached against the folks there. They changed, and God spared the city.

It is said that we all come with gifts to offer the world, and the world needs our gifts.

Offering our gifts is our true calling, and we are called to it more than once in our lives. But the call is particularly loud during midlife. If we try to discern what we are being called to (the voice isn't always as clear as the one that Jonah heard), and face the challenge of the call, we will fulfill our destiny, and our lives will become a great adventure.

If we refuse the call, our lives can become increasingly meaningless, and unsatisfactory.

You might find some help in discovering your true calling on my website at: . If you already know what your mission is, but have been avoiding it because it is 'impractical', or too hard, or you don't know where to start, start anyway. The road reveals itself as you go.

If you want a coach to help you get clear, I do that.

Head for Nineveh, not Tarshish, and start moving into your 'second life' with intent, purpose, joy and courage.


Everything is always Okay in the end, if it's not, then it's not the end.


Get A Truly Great Bargain On Jed Diamond's New Book: The Irritable Male Syndrome

Been feeling a bit irritable lately? When I was on a CBC call-in show a few weeks ago, I mentioned that men in middle age often find, as I did, that they anger more easily than they used to.

WHOA... I must have said the magic words, because the board lit up. Many men, and the wives of men, called to say they were inexplicably more irritable these days. They wondered what to do about it. I wasn't sure how to help them, so I told them to look for Jed Diamond's new book.

Jed has worked with men and couples for many years, and his new book is coming out tomorrow. I just got a pre-publication copy from him, and I know almost any man in midlife will find a LOT of useful stuff in it.

AND... Jed is offering you a really excellent deal if you order it now. Here is an email I got from him the other day:

Dear Friends and colleagues,

Well we are getting close to the official release date when The Irritable Male Syndrome: Managing the 4 Key Causes of Depression and Aggression will be available.

Many of you have asked to be reminded.

As most of you know, in a blatant attempt to get the book to the top of the Amazon best-seller list and start the buzz that will help it stand out from the hundreds of thousands of other books available, I am offering more than $200 of free bonus material. I think you will find them quite valuable to you.

If you'd like to see a description of the bonuses go to

On the 15th I'll give you specific instructions for ordering. Many of you have told me you were going to get multiple copies. One man is buying 10 and giving them as gifts. If you do buy for others, please let them know that they are also eligible for the free bonuses.

Best wishes,


So... get the book, and all the free stuff with it. I recommend it highly. Noel


A secret from the thrifty Scots: INCREASE the life of your carpets by rolling them up and keeping them in the garage.


Take the Business Ethics Pledge?

Do you have a business?

Have you taken the pledge?

Shel Horowitz, author of Principled Profit: Marketing that Puts People First, is looking for 25,000 "influencers" to take the Business Ethics Pledge -- and find a way to influence other people: announce it through a newsletter, a sign in your store, a five-minute talk at the Rotary Club, etc.

Will you join me in signing the pledge?

Here it is:

"I pledge allegiance, in my heart and soul, to the concepts of honesty, integrity, and quality in business. I recognize that the cornerstone of success is treating all stakeholders fairly, with compassion, and with a commitment to service. Working from abundance, I recognize that even my competitors can become important allies. I will not tolerate crooked practices in my business, from co-workers, direct or indirect reports, supervisors, managers, suppliers, or anyone else -- and if I encounter such practices, I will refuse to go along with them and report them to appropriate authorities within and outside the company. I pledge to support the "triple bottom line" of environmental, social, and financial responsibility. And I pledge to participate in a serious effort to focus the business community on these principles, by sharing this message with at least 100 other business leaders."

Don't let the "100 other business leaders" throw you. Go to Shel's site for simple ideas. I signed the pledge. Will you do so, too? Let's make a difference in our business world! Seems like the kind of thing us midlife men should do...


Just For You: A Free Do-It-Yourself Retirement Planning Report

If you are a new subscriber to this newsletter, you will recall I promised you a link to a secret page on the Midlife Men's site where you can download a free 27-page report on 'DIY Retirement planning' by George Slater.

Welcome to the newsletter, and for your free report, go to: DIY Retirement E-Report , click on the link, and follow the instructions.



Learn to be a Teleclass Facilitator

If you are a facilitator/speaker/professional who gives lectures or workshops, you can do it from home and make money. Teleclasses (also known as teleseminars) using telephone bridge lines, are becoming increasingly popular, and and a very inexpensive way to deliver high-quality training. I took training in teleclass leadership from Teleclass International which I highly recommend.



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Well friend, that's it for now. Again, if you enjoyed this and/or found it useful, and know of anyone else who might like it, please pass it forward. And if you have questions or recommendations, I would love to hear from you.

All the best, Noel

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