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How To Avoid Identity Theft
March 01, 2006

Midlife Wisdom For Men Issue #053, March 1, 2006

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· 50s Next Best To 20s In The Bedroom Department

· How To Avoid Identity Theft


Written by Noel McNaughton (c) copyright 2006


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Welcome to this issue of Midlife Wisdom for Men.

I don't know about you, but I have noticed a drop in libido during the past ten years, which is not to say I don't still enjoy frequent dalliances in the bedroom. Just not as often as before. A recent Norwegian study shows that is generally true as men age, but during our 50s, satisfaction is near an all-time high. Go figure.

There are about 800 words in the articles in this newsletter, which should take you about three minutes to read.

All the best,



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50s Next Best To 20s In The Bedroom Department

I have had my 'se*xual life' questionnaire form, (I have to write the 's word' that way so the spam filters don't send this letter to the dust bin), on my website for more than a year, and about four hundred men have filled it in.

Here are some results:

  • 43.4% said "I have lower libido than a few years ago, but still enjoy se*x with my wife/partner"
  • 37.3% said "I have a lower s*ex drive than I used to have, but I still would like more se*x than my wife/partner is interested in"
  • 41.7% said "I am not enjoying se*x with my wife/partner as much as I used to, but fantasize about having se*x with younger women"
  • 36.3% said they were having an affair, either for the great s*ex, or for companionship
  • 20% are taking a medication that is either affecting their se*xual functioning, or reducing their desire
  • 20% are taking a medication to improve the strength of their ere*ctions

The ages of the men are:

  • 7% are 35-40 years
  • 50% are 40-50 years
  • 36% are 50-60 years
  • 7% are 60 years or older

I am not able to break these responses down into answers by age category. Most men selected more than one answer. Often selecting both "I have a lower s*ex drive than I used to have, but I still would like more se*x than my wife/partner is interested in" and "I am not enjoying se*x with my wife/partner as much as I used to, but fantasize about having se*x with younger women", for example.

That being the case, I don't know how well this survey corresponds with a recent study published in Norway, and reported in the CanWest news service a couple of weeks ago. The study by researchers at the University of Oslo, University of Bergen and Harvard Medical School, says men in their 50s have the highest level of satisfaction with their s*ex life since their 20s. Even more than men in their 30s and 40s.

The study surveyed nearly 1200 men in Norway, and found that although men in their 50s are losing a bit of physical oomph, they enjoy s*ex more than they did during their younger years because they don't have the same performance hang-ups younger men have.

It all makes perfect sense to Guy Grenier, a psychologist and se*x therapist who teaches at the University of Western Ontario. "In older age groups, people are less hung up about performance", he says, "these results are consistent with what we find in women as well. "People have learned more about themselves. They are more comfortable in their relationship. They have found ways to express their sex*ual needs. They're more focused on commitment and attachment, so s*ex becomes ... a moment to be intimate and to bond with somebody."

What Grenier says rings true in my own experience. Although I have a lower libido than a few years ago, and Elizabeth does too, we find our bedroom encounters are more intimate and satisfying.

Now here is the not-so-good part: the study found that satisfaction dropped off sharply for men in their 60s and beyond.

I am 60 now…


It's not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness. Charles Spurgeon


How To Avoid Identity Theft

A few years ago I got my mastercard bill, and found an extra $1230 in charges on it. Somebody had used my card number to buy a bunch of computer equipment in Montreal and Toronto, and have it shipped to Vancouver. I phoned the Vancouver police, and they said to phone to credit card company, which I did. I gave them the address the goods had been delivered to, and they took the charges off my card. I don't know what they did after that. Knee-capping the culprit would be appropriate as far as I am concerned.

I am reading more and more these days about identity theft. I suppose with every scrap of information about our lives floating around in cyber space it makes sense bad guys would want to get their hands on it.

There was an article in the latest issue of AARP magazine about how to avoid having your identity stolen. A few fairly simple precautions will give you a lot of protection. You can find the information here: Identity Theft Intro.

By the way, if you are over 50, I recommend you subscribe to AARP (, or if you live in Canada, CARP ( Inexpensive, and lots of resources.


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I Need Your Questions and Feedback!

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Just email your suggestions and/or questions to . I look forward to hearing from you. And thanks.


Well friend, that's it for now. Again, if you enjoyed this and/or found it useful, and know of anyone else who might like it, please pass it forward. And if you have questions or recommendations, I would love to hear from you.

All the best, Noel

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