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Cheating and divorce after the death of a child

by Carolyn
(Grosse pointe, MI)

Seventeen months ago, my twenty year old stepson died from a heroin overdose. He had struggled for eight years with drug addiction. Six months after his death, my husband wanted a divorce. I felt it had been born out of grief and guilt, but later learned there had been another woman in the picture for awhile. Now, six months after the divorce was final, he has made an attempt to reconcile. I am ambivalent.

Noel's response

The death of his son might have triggered both the affair and the divorce.

If you do decide to reconcile, I highly recommend some marriage counseling to help the two of you talk about what your relationship will look like going forward, because it cannot be what it was before.

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Jan 20, 2012
A codependent life
by: Carolyn

I can't get past the abandonment. I worked so hard to make a life for us, and took care of this profoundly sick boy, only to have our life blow up. I'm not sure that these pieces can be put back together. He says he regrets his actions over the past year and a half, and wants to change things between us, but I'm not so sure. I think I would have to be out of my mind to go back into such a damaged codependent life.

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