Do I wait?
My Husband of 20 years has left 4 months ago, he has blamed everyone for the leaving (which he denied) but we had a traumatic year and from what I can understand he felt neglected at times. I have found it difficult to regain trust in him since, he has been saying a lot of truly horrible things, and the upshot of it is that he has now bought a very small bachelor flat for himself. He maintains that there is no one else. He asked me to move into the flat and sell all of our possessions over the last 20 years. He won't consider any other type of property where I could live be more comfortable. He has been prone to nastiness so would be particularly uncomfortable in a small space. I have found somewhere else to live but suggested we continue to work on our relationship and ourselves. He has advised me that this is the end of our marriage now if I don't move in to his pad. I am not sure whether this is really a mid life crisis and whether there is any chance he will come out of this? I miss the man I married terribly and feel devastated.