He says he loves his high school sweetheart. Is going to leave me?
My husband is in a midlife crisis. We have been married for 35 years. Is it possible that he will leave me for his high school sweetheart as he says he is in love with her?
He is still taking care of what he needs to at home and our sex life is still incredible. We do not argue and I don't ask questions as I don't want to know what is going on. I live with the hope that we will remain married and happy after this is over.
I am hoping we will get closer together and this is a book in his life that he has not yet closed. How long does this normally last? Do men who are going through this crisis usually regret leaving their wife if they should decide to leave?Noel's response
There is no set time that these transitions last. They can go on from several weeks to several years. If men leave, some come back and some don't.
I find it interesting that your sex life is still incredible, when there is obviously another woman in the picture. Usually and 'Affaire de Coeur' can cause resentment, which is definitely not an aphrodisiac!
You also say you don't ask questions, as you do not want to know what is going on.
Chances are that this 'hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil' approach will no do much to create a long-term, rewarding marriage, even if you and your husband do not split up.
In general, neither men nor women like a 'doormat' for a spouse.
I suggest you get some counselling to try to work out your real feelings about this situation, and to deal with your fear of being on your own.