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by Sue

Why do MLC men find it hard to have sex with their wife when they return home ? No proper kisses or passionate holding them tight ? Is the other woman still on their mind even after being home ten months ? Or is it depression ?

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May 07, 2016
Thank you
by: Sue

Thank you all for responding it's so hard , annouminus two years ! So unfair and hurtful isn't it , are you like me and insecure in the fact you don't live up to the other woman even though he has told me I'm better by a million miles in every way ? I still think he is still depressed although he has started to take interest in our home again. I hope you get your life back as we really do deserve it after this brutal journey x

Apr 30, 2016
DEEP appreciation for being you, "Sue"
by: Ms. Mikiyah

1. Fully, I agree with Noel: His guilt prevents him from enjoying, once simple things, you two "used" to enjoy.
MIX life up to challenge him to do things differently for the new you, you must needs uncover the new you.

2. Give him reasons to want to/ make him crave your kisses & intimate sharing of each other.

3. Demonstrate why the longevity of your years together are far SUPERIOR to his recent memories of her = fleeting & non-lasting, in spite of & because of who you have now become.

4. Yes depression plagues you both. Get creative & think outside of old/aged boxes neither of you fit into anymore.
Get creative Sue ...meaning what is the polar opposite of your God-given name: Appreciation = make him, by giving him reasons to, better appreciate the "Sue" in this life.

Divine Blessings in your Journey, hopefully together... if God ordains...
& if not, Divine blessings regardless...

Apr 30, 2016
by: Anonymous

Sue, my husband is the same. He's been back nearly 2 years now. Sorry I don't have the answer
for you but just to let you know someone else is dealing with the same problem.

Apr 29, 2016

by: Noel

Hi Sue,

I am not sure that all men do. If yours does, it might be because of guilt as much as anything. Or perhaps a loss of libido, or maybe depression. I am sorry, but I don't really know.

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