My husband and I have been together for 14 years. He is 44 years old. We have had a great life and marriage together until the past year and a half.
Our problems started when he and one of both our friends which is a woman started txt.
At first it was ok, then it became more often til they txt all day long.
I ended up moving out of the house several times in the past year and a half. He swears nothing happened between them (she is also married) all they do is talk.
He has lied about talking to her several different times to me. Time and time again through this he swears he loves me and wants our marriage to work and I keep giving him chances coz I do love him.
He has been very distant and seems very cold through this. He seems to be a different person with me and his whole family.
He is a hard person to talk to and even harder for him to talk about his feelings.
I'm not sure what he is going through. I am trying to understand but is hard. He somtimes is so distant and mean for no reason.
I do know he is not talking to this woman any longer.
He is not happy with himself lately with weight his gray hair and even his work.
In your opinion is this a mid life crisis or maybe its more?
It does sound as though he is having a midlife crisis. For your protection, I recommend you read my "For Women" page, and perhaps get Jed Diamon's "Irritable Male Syndrome" book, for which there is a link on that page. Your husband might find it useful reading as well.
You might also suggest that your husband visit this website.