my husband feels he is a father figure a female friend
my husbands married female friend is a manic depressive who has literally drained him emotionally with her daily issues. I have put up with it for 3 years and can no longer - there is no physical side to the friendship but he says he feels he is responsible for her when she needs him. He is now torn between me and his real child and doesn't know how to get rid of her as he feels he is abandoning her? Help!
He is obviously enmeshed with her. My suggestion is that he learn some boundaries, which may mean seeing a counselor in order to do so.
He does not owe her his energy and attention. The kindest thing he can do is tell her firmly that he can no longer give her the time and energy she wants from him, and she needs to see a professional counselor in order to deal with her problems.
If he doesn't he will never escape her neediness.