My husband is leaving me.Midlife crisis?????
After almost 21 years of marriage my husband is leaving me. He has applied for social housing,I do not know what he has said to the housing officer as I wasnt in the room (they shut the door). My husband has been acting offish for sometime now but more since Jan this year after he said it was time to move (back to the usa) and I said no. The intimacy has been completely non-existent for 2 years now,he goes to the gym quite often, goes to watch live bands with his friends, and stays out till 3-4am in the morning.(not all going out all the time tho) He has lost weight. He is now using special shampoo to make his hair stronger,hes also using anti aging cream and was using fake tan and coloured his hair.(its receding at the front) He is 42 and Im 53
He says we are NOT married and he doesnt spend time with me or the kids (a girl 14, and two boys 17 and almost 19). He never spends time with any of us. If hes off he goes out alone and he is always going off outside when using his mobile phone(cell). He works a lot too. He has also said he hates me. He didnt take my daughter out for her bday this year.
Are these signs of midlife crisis? If so how long does it last?Noel's response
It sounds as though it is a lot more than a midlife crisis. From what you describe about his behaviour I am surprised you have not left him!
I believe you would be best served by setting some boundaries with him (i.e. once he has moved, change the locks and do not allow him in your house any more, etc.) and moving on with your life.