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need a mistress..

been married fo 21yrs both our 2nd time wife has lots of medical issues I am the care taker here . I don't have the love the way it use to be. attractive 24 yr old women is interested in me. i feel weak about this never have cheated on 2nd wife is this a mid life help.

Noel's response
It may be a midlife crisis and it may just be loneliness. It can be very difficult when you marriage changes so dramatically.
In the latter years of my second marriage the relationship was largely devoid of physical intimacy (not due to medical issues as yours is) and there were times I wished I could allow myself to have an affair with someone who was in similar circumstances, but I never did.

Whether you give in to the temptation is a decision you have control over. If you do give in to the temptation, there will be complications you cannot know in advance. That just seems to be the way life works.

If you have a good friend you can talk with, or maybe a therapist, I recommend it.

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Aug 06, 2014
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by: Anonymous

Having been n the receiving end of a cheating husband I can tell you it is the worst thing that can happen in a marriage. Can you not talk to your wife about this other woman and see what she has to say about it. From my point of view it is the most painful thing I have ever gone threw although my marriage is starting to get back on track I still have days of upset and do not trust my husband fully yet not sure I ever will. think very carefully before you start this as it may well end up very badly for you.

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