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Only for Men?

by Dawn


Can this apply to women also? Reading things here, I feel much the same way. I've often held the dominate financial (or at least equal) role in the household.

I feel I am in a career I no longer desire, living a life I don't feel fits me anymore.

However, responsibilities reduce my ability to change my current status. And I don't know what else to do, although I don't want to do what I am doing anymore. I understand people who run away from home as an adult.

Noel's Answer

Hi Dawn, thanks for your question.

Yes, it can definitely apply to women too. In fact I think as more career women hit midlife, they will have similar reactions to their jobs and home lives.

As I mention elsewhere on this site, I believe we go through two midlife transitions:
a 'right livelihood transition' around age 35-45, and a 'existential transition' around age 50.

Either of these transitions can cause a person to want to 'kick over the traces' and do something else.

I don't know your age, but it is also very common at menopause for women to suddenly not want to look after anything or anybody any more.

It sounds as though you are clearly in a transition, and I have no doubt you have options you have not thought of yet.

I recommend you sit down with your husband/partner and family and look at what you could do to make a change that would work for everyone. You might be surprised at the support you receive if you put your cards on the table.

If, on the other hand, you do not receive support to change from your family, you might get together with some friends and brainstorm possibilities.

You could also go to the 'your life mission' page on this site, and do some of the exercises to help get an idea of where to go from here.

A personal coach can also be very helpful in helping figuring out what to do next, and coming up with a strategy to carry it out. You can find one here: The Coaches. (The coaching is done by phone, so your coach doesn't have to live where you do.)


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