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What to do

by TBS
(New York, NY)

Hi Noel,

I am in the same situation as the rest of these ladies. I too am married a long time going on 35 this June if we continue to stay

Here's my story my husband left me 2 yrs ago March. He had a brief affair with a mutual friend and when I found out he broke it off.
He claims he doesn't know what he wants. He has his own place about 5 miles from the house, he works out of our home, has all his meals here and even showers here. We do everything together and enjoy our wknds together such as dinner or watching a movie.

He came down with Erectile Dysfunction a couple yrs back and we have not made love since 2012. He doesn't know I know but I snooped and found out on my own. I believe that he is indeed going thru a MLC
he has lost his Mom, My Dad, and 2 Nieces in the last 4 yrs.

He tells me he will always love me and is slightly affectionate with a kiss and hug but not like the past.

I love this man with all my heart. He is my best friend, my daughter's father, and all around great guy.

I will stick it out until papers are served, but I really want this separation to end. Can you help.? You can email me back to


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Mar 23, 2015
What to do
by: Noel


I don't know that I can help. If you want to escalate things and force a decision (one you may not want) you could tell him to either move back home, or quit coming home. The way it is, he has 'the best of both worlds'.

If it truly is a midlife crisis/transition it will end at some point.

Perhaps other readers will have some helpful advice.

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